About Grace

“It’s ok not to be ok”

Grace was quite simply the most kind, caring and fun‐loving person you could ever meet

She was always up for having a laugh and would often be the first person on the dance floor or the first person doing karaoke. She was the life and soul of the party. Whether you were sitting with Grace in a small, quiet room or standing on opposite sides of a packed club, you could often hear the echoing sound of Grace’s huge laugh and couldn’t help but smile.

As Gracie grew up, she was determined to be famous whether it be singing, dancing or acting. She would often put on shows for her family and friends and her face would light up when she performed. The big, beaming smile and sparkly eyes indicating that she loved every minute of being on stage. It is no surprise that Grace’s favourite subject at school was drama.

Grace made friends wherever she went, whether it was the girls she met at school, the people she worked with or those she would see in the gym. She would always take the time to find out how other people were, and to check whether they were having a good day. She quite simply had a heart of gold. Grace was always thinking of others; giving gifts to her friends to make them smile or writing them cards just to let them know how special she thought they were.

As she grew up, it became clear how strong Gracie was; she spent every day battling an illness nobody could see and fought so, so hard to overcome the struggles she faced with her own mental health. The Grace Dear Trust has been set up to strive to help others talk about their mental wellbeing and aims to educate young people to realise “It’s ok not to be ok.”

(Written by Katherine Allum / Grace’s best friend)

Memories of Grace

Jessica Urekew

Jessica Urekew

I am in American in the US Air Force stationed in the UK for the last 4 years. I met Grace at the Priory when I was going through a difficult time in my life. She got there a few days after I did. I remember meeting her family and always being so happy for...

Spice Girls

Spice Girls

We met Grace at work, her smile would light up any room including an office! Grace would wear stunning very high heels and walk into the office looking like she worked in fashion not for an accountancy firm. If Grace ever said she liked our hair or top we knew we had...

Katherine

Katherine

Friday 17th February 2017 at 11:09pm is a time that will stay with me forever; yet a time that I try every day to forget. It’s the precise time that I heard the news that my darling friend grace had taken her life. On hearing those words, I collapsed to the floor, my...

Katie

Katie

I have so many but here is one when we were starting at Noddy preschool, I remember Grace asking me for short hair and to cut her ponytail off, the innocence of me picked up a pair of scissors (the zig zag kind that only 3-4 year olds are...

Natasha

Natasha

Grace and I used to be slightly obsessed with Gareth Gates when we went to a Smash Hits concert, we both had Gaz written on our foreheads and stickers of his face on our cheeks. We also made my mum wear a sticker saying "Dunc's a hunk!" (Duncan...

Charlie

Charlie

I first met Gracie at the gym. She was doing some intense workout and showing up most other people with how hard she trained plus making some odd noises! We started chatting & just clicked. Became close friends so quickly & went for...

Lucy

Lucy

Mental health. It’s the biggest elephant in the room; yet it’s something we all have. It may be positive. It may be negative. It may fluctuate; but 4 in 4 of us have it. 1 in 4 of us suffer with mental ill health. It doesn’t mean we’re weak, or pathetic,...

Isabelle

Isabelle

Grace was one of my closest cousins. I have so many memories that all of the family have also had with her and that's why it is so hard to know that she is no longer with us. It is very hard to lose someone you love so much and it will always...

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The Grace Dear Trust Dinner & Dance 2019 💃

Starting last year in a small Italian restaurant in Surrey to last week, having nearly 200 people supporting us. Our annual Dinner and Dance is our opportunity to share with you all the great work we are doing in partnership with our local schools.

We won’t stop until our young people are getting the support they so desperately need!

Thank you just isn’t enough! We are overwhelmed with the support and generosity of everyone who joined us last Friday and made the night one to remember 💜

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Mondays can make everyone feel blue.

Just remember today is a new day, November is a new month and Mondays are the start of a new week!

Go out today and set yourself a measurable goal. Sometimes, when we feel we have completed something then it can give us a new burst of energy 🔋

What are your goals this week?

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Tolworth Girls' School
Thank you @hopevirgo_ for sharing your story so openly, providing staff and parents information on how we can best support someone who is struggling, and opening up the conversation around eating disorders 💜

Hope delivered sessions for us last night at our partnering school @tolworthgirlsschool

We hope everyone who came found the evening useful.

This is just the beginning!

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